Im not successful because I'm not...rich?
Cash. Money. Bills. Stacks.
Whatever you refer to the green stuff as, we can all agree that society feeds off of it. Society tells us that we need more, that if we have more, we are superior, and that if we have less, we are lesser. I like to apply a lot of my understanding of these topics to my business because that is what I am currently enthralled in. The first thing that people say to me when I tell them what I do, has been weighing on my mind quite a bit lately. First I tell them that I am self-employed, second, that I do run my business on my own, and third, that I create gift boxes. The first thing they always say is "Wow, I can't believe you can support yourself on that!" What does that mean exactly? Do you think I'm swimming in money? Do you think that I should be? If I'm not, have I failed something? If I don't commit myself to an office cubicle from 9-5, am I wrong?
The truth of the matter.
The truth is, no, I'm not swimming in money. Technically, I could not support a family on what I am making running this small business of mine. But you want to know something? That is totally ok with me! I'm not looking to be a millionaire. I am not looking for acceptance or praise. I am not looking for pity either. I simply want to be happy. I enjoy what I do. I enjoy the "stresses" that this type of job gives me. Pink ribbon or red? This box or that one? Should I post this Monday or Tuesday? I actually don't even want to call this a job, because this is not work for me. I love it! Doesn't the old saying go, if you love what you do, you never work a day in your life? I strongly believe in statements like this. I believe in happiness, in pursuing your passions, finding your own way, and making it on your own in this crazy world. There is no right or wrong. There is no single definition of success. I say gone are the days of doctors and dentists being the only path that leads to success, and this idea of financial freedom. Freedom is being able to answer to yourself, to make your own rules, and to be able to share more of yourself with the world through your creativity.
The idea of the "dream career" is over?
I am a strong proponent of the small business movement and of doing your own thing. #shopsmall I think it is great that everywhere you turn, people are abandoning the corporate world and exploring things that they never believed they could. Ok, you took a pay cut? So what! Are you happy? Are you healthy? Are you loved? Do you love? Are you capable and willing to live your life how you want to live it? Then I say go for it! Knit sweaters! Explore calligraphy! Design stationary! Please try something that has been on your bucket list. Why? Because we have this one life to live. Do you want to spend it wondering what if?
I know this is not for everybody. I am in no way putting down those who want to be doctors and dentists and millionaires. More power to you! I think it takes an incredible amount of discipline and work to achieve these goals, just as much as it does to chase creative endeavors. Coming from someone who has three degrees in Information technology, I know what hard work is. I know what I could be doing. I know the money that I could be making. I know that life is not all fairy tales and rainbows, and that there has to be a certain level of seriousness at some point. I agree. I know that you must pay taxes, you must pay your bills, and you must be able to survive. Duly noted.
Am I successful?
Heck yes I am! Why? Because I am happy. Because I can do what I want, when I want. I can express myself however I want to, and explore all of the creative avenues of my mind, and be able to share that with many amazing people just like you! I am not rich. I am not popular. I am not a star in any right, but I am excited when I wake up every day. I don't know what the future will bring. I don't know if I will have a lot of money, or if I will reach some light at the end of some tunnel. Who cares? I don't.
I don't mind being judged. I don't mind the questions. I don't mind the subtly uncomfortable conversations with individuals who confidently choose to explore the whats and whys of my life. I personally feel sorry that they care so much about what I am doing from sun up to sun down.
My final closing thoughts of this entry go a little something like this... In all actuality, I am rich. I am rich in family. I am rich in friends. I am rich in health. I am rich in love, and passion, and creativity. So there. I hope all the naysayers, and the questioners, and the I don't understanders can understand this. I hope when they look back at their lives, they can say they were rich too, and I genuinely hope that they don't mean in hundred dollar bills.
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