Healing a broken heart.
When a broken heart is mentioned, many people first go to the thought of lost love and broken relationships. Truthfully, it is much more than that. A broken heart can come from severed ties and the loss of a loved one, but it can also come from disappointment, self doubt, and the insecurities of a single person. Sometimes in life we find ourselves disappointed and at a loss of words, direction, and emotion. This emptiness can lead us to question our very presence on this Earth. Trivial things to some, are meaningful things to others, and we may never fully understand how each person feels and what they hold so deeply. For this reason, it is best to work hard to accept yourself and the things you have faced, and to accept others for the same.
Thinking back on moments in my life, the things that left empty spaces in my heart could be described as missed opportunities, a lack of closure, and a desperate need for growth. As I get older, I realize more and more what life is about, and how it might be possible to win at this game. The cheesiest part of this entry will be the next few lines. Lately, my main goal, my biggest desire, and my greatest accomplishment has been finding happiness. Somehow along this broken road, I have managed to get a glimpse of what this feeling could be like if I could maintain it. The question is though, "who is telling me that I can't?" For the longest time I have been concerned about what others have thought about me, how I would be judged based on the things that I have done, or the things that I would say. Lately, I just don't give a...You get the idea.
There have been many influential moments in my growth over the past few years. I struggled through difficult relationships, loss, and figuring out who I am and who I want to be. The hardest part of all of it, was picking up the pieces every time my heart was shattered. The people you lose in your life can take a toll, but the parts of yourself that you lose in the process of hurting for them are what challenge you the most. I have broken my own heart when I realized that I changed so much of myself for someone else. I broke my own heart when I thought that my positive actions to remove myself from an unhealthy situation cost me someone I loved. I broke my own heart when I let myself get so upset over things I could not control, that I just wanted to give up. As I have gotten older, I have realized the true meaning of the statement you cannot control how others treat you, but you can control how you react to it. People are going to hurt you, people are going to challenge you and try to change you, but you can't let them. There are times where you will let them, and this is when you will learn. Eventually, you will get so tired of being miserable because of someone else, that you will choose to be nothing but happy. This can happen with situations also. Bad things happen to good people, and when you realize that this is simply life giving you what you need to grow, your perspective will start to change. This is when the healing begins.
This is the moment when you start find out who you are and why you are. It takes time to accept that you have been broken, and it takes just as much time to figure out and accept that you can heal. We all have things that have pulled and scratched and ripped apart our hearts, but what nobody wants to tell you is that you can heal. You can dress the wounds and patch the holes and find inner peace again.
What heals a broken heart?
Accepting that the past is the past and you cannot change it no matter how hard you try is one of the most beneficial practices we can learn in life. You must accept that there is a plan for your life that you may not understand, but it awaits you with all of it's ups and downs and glorious moments that are yet to be seen. You must accept that you have loved and lost and you will love again. You must accept that you have changed and grown and will continue to grow, and it is completely ok to be someone that is constantly evolving. You must accept that your attitude is what you make it, and if you choose to be happy, you truly will be. Some days you may have to dig a little deeper to find it, but it is always there, your happiness. You can make yourself believe in good things, and a positive future, and many more days where the sun will rise and set the same as it always does, but you may look at it with different eyes. Everyday you can choose to wake up and be excited and ready to face challenges with an I can do this attitude. It's all up to you. If you want to heal, you will. If you want to be happy, you will. Believe in yourself always, but if you need a little help, remember to surround yourself with people you love and people who love you back. No matter how much loss hurts, people are important and loved ones are necessary. Ups and downs, loss, and heartbreak are inevitable, but a more positive mindset each day can take you to incredible places no matter what you are setup to face. Happy healing friends. You can do it. I believe in you.