Dreams don't always come true.
When you are younger and someone asks you want you want to be when you grow up, your first response might be a doctor, or an astronaut, or a dinosaur. When you get into high school and when you go off to college, they ask you again. This time you might respond with a teacher, a marine biologist, or a systems analyst. When we are children, those around us let our imaginations run wild and allow us to believe in whatever we wish. Once we get older, they put limitations on us and they tell us we can't. There are new rules and strict guidelines on what it means to be an adult. You must cash in your fun card, pay taxes, and be serious, they tell us. When you graduate college, your world comes crashing down. If you do have a job, you are often working your a** off every day to prove yourself, and to prove that you aren't just a mindless 20-something year old. If you don't have a job, panic sets in. You might have mountains of debt, a few degrees under your belt, and absolutely no direction. You thought you knew what you wanted, but sitting behind a desk stuffed into a corner cubicle ever day for the next few decades scares you to death. What also scares you is not being successful, not making money, or not being able to support yourself.
How about retirement? Wait...am I too young to think about that?
Let's say you finally find something that you like, and you put your all into it just to find out that it's not going to work. You invest time, money, and energy into people, places, and things, only to be let down. Lost jobs, failed relationships, and hours of tears and frustration can make you want to run and hide. Remember when that kid who loved riding bikes and dinosaurs wanted to be a twenty something? It seemed so old at the time. The big kids seemed to have it all together and they didn't have to go to sleep at 7:00 sharp every night. When you are actually there, it seems quite intimidating. Maybe mid-afternoon naps weren't so bad after all?
There are many times in our lives that we think we have it all together. We are happy in a particular place and we would never think that things could get either worse, or better from that point. Little do we know right?
Today, the best times in your life can turn into painful memories with one text message. Your whole life can be shattered with one phone call, or your dreams can be crushed in seconds. The truth is, the things we wish for are often not the things that we need. When unexpected good things happen in our lives, we are shocked to see that something we never knew we needed could change our lives so drastically. The best times, the best people, and the best memories are the ones that we never expected. Whether you want to believe it or not, your path in life will not be a set of events that you constructed. Your life will be a big jumbled mess of lessons, love, and unexpected moments. You will fail, you will cry, and you will face challenges that will tear you apart. Don't give up during these times. Open your heart, open your eyes, and see. See that the universe is unfolding as it should. See that you are loved, and you are happy, even when you have bad days. See that even though you may not have exactly what you want, it doesn't mean that you won't. It also doesn't mean exactly what you have always wanted is going to be what will truly make you happy. Be patient with yourself, be patient with others, and be patient with your future. Everything is happening for a reason, and even though you can't see it now, eventually you will.
The best thing you can do today is respect yourself and others, love yourself, and remember, when dreams don't come true, when people leave, and when we fail, we are actually setting ourselves up for bigger and better things that we cannot plan for.
CAUTION: BETTER DAYS AHEAD :D